What Do I Ask?
Updated: Mar 12, 2020
The more clear your question is, the more clear your answer will be! it's important to know WHY you are asking your question and get to the real root of what you need to know.
VAGUE: How is my love life?
SPECIFIC: How can I revive my love life?
SPECIFIC: What do I need to do in order to feel more connected to my partner?
SPECIFIC: What actions will allow me to enter back into the dating world and feel confident in doing so?
SPECIFIC: What unhealed wound in me is causing me to act out erratically in my relationship right now?
When creating your question, it is also important to notice how your wording. Are you asking the cards for permission? Are you putting the decision in their hands? Or are you framing your question to be one that puts the power back into your hands, the question that will supply you with the information that allows you to make an empowered choice?
Questions like "should I do this?" will only be a vague yes or no from the cards. Sometimes there will be a clear answer, like the Tower or an Ace popping up, but mostly this approach will not give you enough to work with. Instead, asking for information from a place of personal responsibility will give you much more solid guidance to work with.
DISEMPOWERING: Should I date this person?
EMPOWERING: What do I need to know in order to make a decision about dating (name)?
Focus on Yourself
Keep the question focused on yourself and what you can do in the situation.
Q: Why does she have a drinking problem?
Can change to: What role do I play in their drinking problem?
Stay Emotionally Neutral
Keep the question neutral in order to avoid questions that are already charged with a negative or unproductive answer
Q: Why won't anyone listen to me?
Can change to: What is going on with my communication that is making me feel as if no one is hearing me?
Find the right level of detail
Q: How can I organize my desk so my boss knows I am a hard worker?
Can change to: What can I do to position myself as a hard worker to my boss?
Focus on the outcome you desire
Q: Why can't I get popular on youtube?
Can change to: What should I focus on in order to increase the popularity of my youtube channel?
What can I do to improve _______?
What is the most likely outcome if I choose _______?
What do I need to know about _______?
How can I get past _______?
What's the lesson I am not seeing clearly when it comes to _______?
Why does _______ keep repeating or showing up in my life?
What should I be focusing on right now when it comes to _______?
Why do I have a funny feeling about _______?
How do I move forward in _______?
Can you give me insight into ......
What do I need to understand about .......
What is the meaning of ...........
What is the lesson or purpose of ..........
What are the circumstances underlying ..............
How can I improve my chances of ..........
How might I .............
Questions to Ask
I’m at a fork in the road. Which way should I go?
What are the Pros and Cons?
What do I need to know to make the best decision?
What is most important for me to get done?
What should I do next?
What is coming forth in my life?
What should I look out for?
What could get in my way?
How will a certain occasion or event turn out?
What am I not seeing?
What is holding me back?
What cycles are I stuck in?
Are there truths that I am denying?
What life lesson am I facing?
What will be the best way for me to communicate with this person?
What positives do the people in my life provide me?
What are the motivations and intentions of this person?
What role does this person play in my life?
How can I find ease within this situation?
Questions to Avoid
Avoid questions related to death, illness, physical health, serious legal or financial situations. With my methods of reading, I also can not answer questions like exact timelines, names or dates.
You CAN ask how to emotionally, mentally, or spiritual cope with scenarios.
NO: How and when will I die?
YES: How can I cope with my fear of death?
NO: Will I win the lottery?
YES: How can I bring more financial abundance into my life?
NO: Do I have cancer?
YES: How do I cope spiritually with my diagnosis of cancer?